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So you're saying that because a man named Paul said that a women should be subject to her man...
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No, I'm saying that because God said that, "
as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing." There is a difference. I know it's typical when someone quotes Scripture word for word to claim that they are he ones saying it, but actually it's God saying it. Your real offense is not with what I say, but what God said.
2nd Peter 1:20-21- "Knowing this first, that no prophecy of the scripture is of any private interpretation.
- For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the Holy Ghost."
First, "true" Christians don't believe that the Apostle Paul spoke this because it was his private opinion, but that he spoke as the Holy Spirit God moved him to speak concerning this issue. Just as the recorded words of the prophets of the Old Testament are God breathed, so this is true also of the written words of the Apostles of the New Testament that are recorded. It came not by the personal will of these men, nor was it their own private interpretations, but the words came as they were moved by the Holy Spirit of God to speak them. That's the pillar of true Christianity, our faith in the
authority of the word. So no, I'm not saying a man named Paul commanded this, I'm saying what was written was divinely inspired to be the word of God. Thus
faithful Christians who are also moved by the Spirit,
receive it as God's word, and they keep it. John 5:3- "For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous."
We "keep" it, as in "Guard it from loss," "preserve it" or "retain it." Sure, some will look at what God's word commands as a violation of their liberty, a burden to women, something grievous or egregious or distressing to the wife, but in the Spirit and love of truth, God's children look at it as something loving, honorable and that which is to be preserved or guarded from loss. These laws weren't instituted to be grievous to the wife, but are a product of God's love to preserve the divine order and institution of marriage and family. That many people will not see it that way, is beside the point.
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...and that she is to submit to him as if he were the lord, that's law?
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Yes, that's God's law. The Apostle Paul didn't author that, God authored it and expects Bible Believing Christians to honor His word. The church's relation to Christ in this indissoluble, unbreakable relationship is the foundation and archetype of that of a husband and his wife. The command here is not to be lightly esteemed, but regarded as divine law, which it is. It's not a suggestion for the husband wife relationship, but a command.
Ephesians 5:22-25- "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
- For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
- "Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
- Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it."
Those are God's words, as the Apostle Paul was testifying as the Spirit moved him. The fact that you attribute this clear Christian doctrine to a man just underscores why there are believers and unbelievers, true Christians and false Christians, people that will do whatever they want, and people that will "actually" lean upon the Bible as their authority. Why do you think that there are Christians that will fight and force the Bible to say whatever they want it to say, and other Christians that will humbly surrender to the will of God as recorded in the Bible? It's the difference between Holy Spirit filled Christians having ears to hear, and professing Christians that have ears but cannot hear. The former look at God's word as the law of His will for mankind, and the latter as something they need to find ways to get around His will for mankind.
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That doesn't make any sense.
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1st Corinthians 2:1316- "Which things also we speak, not in the words which man's wisdom teacheth, but which the Holy Ghost teacheth; comparing spiritual things with spiritual.
- But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.
- But he that is spiritual judgeth all things, yet he himself is judged of no man.
- For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ."
Not just words, words of truth. Sure, it doesn't make sense to be obedient to the Bible if we don't agree with it, from the natural man's perspective. Because without the discernment of the Holy Spirit, there is no one who will apprehend or receive humbly the things that God has revealed. So it doesn't make sense to him because being carnal, he seeks out wisdom from a worldly, carnal, humanistic source.
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A wife has every right to not submit and to him or to deny him anytime she wants.
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According to the wisdom of man, she does. According to the word of God, that's not the attitude, thinking or mindset that the Christian wife should have. God says submit, but man says you have no obligation to submit. So it "once again" all boils down to who is our ultimate authority on the matter, our own will, or the will of God.
Colossians 3:18-19- "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
- Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them."
As in Ephesians, we read the exact same thing here in Colossians. It's not ambiguous what God's will is, and yet man in his willful state makes it appear ambiguous. This precept is concerning the Christian family, and requires of wives subjection in the Lord. Of course, if we have no faith or trust in the authority of the word, it all becomes a moot point and we can believe anything that we want. Thus the terms "Bible Believing" Christians, versus Christians. One receives God's word as authoritative and the other has reservations according to whether they like it or not..
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It's her body.
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However, it doesn't belong exclusively to her in the Christian Covenant Marriage. These Scriptures have been presented before, I present them again for your continued rejection.
1st Corinthians 7:4- "The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife."
This all simply reiterates what Christ said in Matthew chapter 19 that the wife and the husband being joined in covenant marriage equals a one-flesh union that is unbreakable. The singleness of body in the marriage covenant places husband and wife in a dual ownership of each other's body. The wife doesn't have exclusive ownership of her body, neither the husband over his, but both control over the other. Not in a power struggle
since one doesn't have power over their own, but in surrender one to the other in the perfect harmoneous ideal. CLEARLY, it is not that one has power over their own body (
conteradictory to what is written), but God is illustrating the equal rights of husband and wife over each other's body. Two options here. We can either say that God is wrong, or we can humbly receive what has been said. ...if we believe the Bible is authoritative. If not, again, it's a moot point.
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These aren't the cave man days, it's 2017.
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God is immutable, His laws don't change with the changing tide of public opinion or cultural eras or ever changing modern day philosophies. What's written in those Scriptures given, pertains to every single Christian then, as well as today.
Psalms 119:140- "Thy word is very pure: therefore thy servant loveth it."
God's word is very pure, as pure as the most "refined" gold, whereas it is not to be deemed archaic by changing times or seasons. The True Christian loves it, while the pretenders are offended by it and so deceitfully seek ways to make it untrue. To be sure, God's word is as relevant today in 2017 as it was the day it was penned.
Indeed, as this verse says, we love it "because" we know it is pure, unadulterated,
as contrasted to man's private interpretations of it. Our love of the word of God (
wherein we keep or guard it from loss) is evidence of our love of God. It is this refined Word that keeps us from the dross and carnality of this world and its degradations and declension away from original sound Christian doctrine. If that means I'm a cave man, I have no problem being a cave man.
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I can't believe this type of thinking still exists. 
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Romans 11:3-4- "Lord, they have killed thy prophets, and digged down thine altars; and I am left alone, and they seek my life.
- But what saith the answer of God unto him? I have reserved to myself seven thousand men, who have not bowed the knee to the image of Baal."
BELIEVE IT! In all generations there will always be a few left who have not succumbed to the cunning stratagems of the gods of this world to bow the knee to popular philosophies and doctrines designed with the will of man in mind. Amidst the general corruption and idolatry of God's congregation, He has and always, and will always reserve a remnant that He claims for himself. Those with the mind of Christ, having no "thinking" attributed to any goodness or virtue in themselves, but by preservation by the Holy Spirit to "keep" His commandments and not fall into this corruption and apostasy. The glory and credit for this preservation of the saints belongs not to man, but to God alone. So while you can't believe this type of thinking still exists, praise God and glorify His name that it does still exists, though small it may be. ..Till He Come!
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nosce te ipsum"
Peace,
Tony Warren
"I acknowledged my sin unto thee, and mine iniquity have I not hid. I said, I will confess my transgressions unto the Lord; and thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin. Selah. -Psalms 32:5"