I really can't imagine a case where forcing sex with another person is not a reprehensible act. No matter the relationship.
Good point. But on the other hand, I can't think of a case where a Christian husband would be put in that position by a "Christian" wife in the first place. Because she is commanded by God to be under the man's authority and to give herself to him freely and willingly. We have to look at both sides of the coin, not just repeat the modern day secular philosophies.
Also, we have to ask ourselves, does the word rape apply to those who are joined together as one flesh before God and in a sexual relationship continually? Rape is a very serious charge, carrying a penalty of an average 10 years in prison for a husband? What does the Bible teach about the proper sexual relationship between a husband and a wife? God commands that the wife not withhold herself from him because God gives the man the authority over the woman's body when they are married. I know this is something women and a lot of men don't want to hear in our day of feminist rebellion, but God says neither the wife nor the husband have control over their own bodies, but the one over the other. It's very important for Christians to distinguish between secular law and God authored law. Especially in our day.
I Cor. 7:4-5
"The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency".
In other words, this is stating that the husband should render due conjugal visits to his wife, and the wife should also do the same to her husband "as if" their bodies were not their own, because they are not. Her body belongs to him, and his to her. In our modern and unchristian society this makes no sense. But in God's prudence, the wife does not have power over her own body, but the husband does. And in the same way, the husband does not have power over his own body, but the wife does. Where does this allow for a charge of Rape against the husband in a Christian court? I do not believe that it does. If a woman doesn't care about God's laws and doesn't want to be with her husband sexually anymore, she should leave him, not file rape charges against him
Bottom line, according to God's law the wife is not to deprive her husband his conjugal dues, except it is by consent of both parties and only for a time. I think that is what Dustin was getting at in his initial post. If the husband is charged with rape under God's law, according to that same law, shouldn't the wife be charged with violation of God's commands? Both are guilty of violating God's law.